Are You (Un)happy?
Me asking you — a stranger — “are you unhappy?” has likely triggered something within you. And perhaps not in a good way? Unless you think I’m Willy Wonka here to present you with the golden ticket: Happiness.
It’s a polarizing question — one I suspect many loved ones would be terrified to ask regardless of whether they preface it as “happy” or “unhappy” for fear of the answer…
“No.”
“Fuck, I’ve dug myself a grave here. Tell me more, I guess…”
To be “unhappy” is deemed negative because, well, “happy” is deemed positive, and they are quite literally the opposite. Go figure!
Here’s where it gets interesting:
Studies suggest if asked, “are you unhappy?” you will begin to evaluate your life, scanning for areas that confirm you are, in fact, unhappy. This bias applies to all negative emotions.
Cue every personal development blog or video…
“Do you ever feel lonely, anxious, depressed, isolated, disrespected, worthless, or angry?”
Well, duh, of course you do — you’re human!
However, you are now being primed for that negativity to be a focal point in your life. And that, consequently, can really fuck up your mental health!
